Anger, depression, guilt, and shame are the product of the thinking that is at the base of violence on our planet.

The objective of Nonviolent Communication is not to change people and their behavior in order to get our way: it is to establish relationships based on honesty and empathy, which will eventually fulfill everyone's needs.

In our culture, most of us have been trained to ignore our own wants and to discount our needs.

Expressing our vulnerability can help resolve conflicts.

Some people use NVC to respond compassionately to themselves, some to create greater depth in their personal relationships, and still others to build effective relationships at work or in the political arena. Worldwide, NVC is used to mediate disputes and conflicts at all levels.

Nonviolent Communication shows us a way of being very honest, but without any criticism, without any insults, without any put-downs, without any intellectual diagnosis implying wrongness.

Every criticism, judgment, diagnosis, and expression of anger is the tragic expression of an unmet need.