Self-empathy in NVC means checking in with your own feelings and needs.

Also, think about your intentionality - are you getting lost in the method? or coming from the intentionality, the purpose? You don't want to do the mechanics without the consciousness.

My anger tells me firstly that there's a need of mine that's not getting met.

We are never angry because of what others say or do. It is our thinking that makes us angry.

The intention behind the protective use of force is to prevent injury, never to punish or to cause individuals to suffer, repent or change.

At the core of all anger is a need that is not being fulfilled.

When we listen for feelings and needs - we can see that people who seem like monsters are simply human beings whose language and behavior sometimes keep us from seeing their humanness.