Self-empathy in NVC means checking in with your own feelings and needs.

The most dangerous of all behaviors may consist of doing things 'because we're supposed to.

Praise and reward create a system of extrinsic motivations for behavior. Children (and adults) end up taking action in order to receive the praise or rewards.

If you are a czar or a king or a president or someone that wants to control those below them you do not want people to have a consciousness of life, of their needs. Because people do not make good slaves when they're connected to life... That's why in the public schools the primary objective is obedience to authority.

Staying with empathy we allow speakers to touch deeper levels of themselves.

Some people use NVC to respond compassionately to themselves, some to create greater depth in their personal relationships, and still others to build effective relationships at work or in the political arena. Worldwide, NVC is used to mediate disputes and conflicts at all levels.

NVC is a reminder; to focus our attention where we are most likely to get our needs met.