The intention behind the protective use of force is to prevent injury, never to punish or to cause individuals to suffer, repent or change.

Don't hate the circumstance, you may miss the blessing

What bores the listener bores the speaker too.

We need to receive empathy to give empathy.

The only time a message (label) can scare us is if we think there is such a thing, and that such a thing is a disgrace.

Needs are never conflicting. When we say that, we are only saying that at the moment we aren't seeing how both needs can be met. That leaves an opening. When you think in the way I'm suggesting, you'll often find a way to get most needs met simultaneously.

When you ride the wave, the thrill is so exhilarating that you forget everything else. You live in the moment where nothing else matters, so intent on riding the wave perfectly that you and the wave become one. Pain and worry disappear, replaced by euphoria, akin to flow. Similarly, when giving empathy, you want to strive for this kind of total presence for the person you are listening to.