Empathizing with someone's 'no' protects us from taking it personally.

When we are in contact with our feelings and needs, we humans no longer make good slaves and underlings.

If you have an image of someone cutting off a relationship, it's the cutting off that will lead to your suffering. If you see the action as their need being expressed, then the message is within them, not you. Any interpretation you put onto another person's message (such as passive-aggressive, withholding, etc.), you will pay for because of how you took it.

Getting in touch with unmet needs is important to the healing process.

Never hear what a jackal-speaking person thinks, especially what they think about you.

To be able to hear our own feelings and needs and to empathize with them can free us from depression.

NVC helps us connect with each other and ourselves in a way that allows our natural compassion to flourish.