Empathizing with someone's 'no' protects us from taking it personally.

The intention behind the protective use of force is to prevent injury, never to punish or to cause individuals to suffer, repent or change.

If the other persons behavior is not in harmony with my own needs, the more I empathize with them and their needs, the more likely I am to get me own needs met.

We need empathy to give empathy.

Don't hate the circumstance, you may miss the blessing

The punitive use of force tends to generate hostility and to reinforce resistance to the very behavior we are seeking.

Nonviolent Communication is a way of keeping our consciousness tuned in moment by moment to that beauty within ourselves and others, and not saying anything that we think might in any way tarnish people's consciousness of their own beauty.