Getting in touch with unmet needs is important to the healing process.

We never really know what we want until after we get it. If after we get it, it makes life more miserable, we know that isn't what we wanted. If it makes our life wonderful, we know this is a strategy which will meet out need. That's why Paul Tillich, the theologian says we need to sin courageously. You ask for what you want, hoping to meet your needs. If you get it and it makes life worse, you learn that this isn't what I want.

If we wish to express anger fully, the first step is to divorce the other person from any responsibility for our anger.

Punishment is the root of violence on our planet.

You can't make your kids do anything. All you can do is make them wish they had. And then, they will make you wish you hadn't made them wish they had.

If we want to make meetings productive, we need to keep track of those whose requests are on the table.

Learning is too precious to be motivated by coercive tactics.