Violence comes from the belief that other people cause our pain and therefore deserve punishment.

Keep in mind that other people's actions can never 'make' you feel any certain way. Feelings are your warning indicators.

Once you can clearly describe what you are reacting to, free of your interpretation or evaluation of it, other people are less likely to be defensive when they hear it.

If people just asked: "Here are the needs of both sides, here are the resources. What can be done to meet these needs?" the conflict would be easy to resolve.

Translate all self-judgments into self-empathy.

I never have to worry about another person's response, only how I react to what they say.

Anger tells us we've disconnected from life. The purpose in anger is to use it to come back to life.