Always listen to what people need rather than what they are thinking about us.

When we are in contact with our feelings and needs, we humans no longer make good slaves and underlings.

An important aspect of self-compassion is to be able to empathically hold both parts of ourselves-the self that regrets a past action and the self that took the action in the first place.

In our culture, most of us have been trained to ignore our own wants and to discount our needs.

I believe that the most joyful and intrinsic motivation human beings have for taking any action is the desire to meet our needs and the needs of others.

When we are depressed, our thinking blocks us from being aware of our needs, and then being able to take action to meet our needs.

A difficult message to hear is an opportunity to enrich someone's life.