Never give advice to your children unless you have it in writing and notarized.

Compliments and praise, for their part, are tragic expressions of fulfilled needs

I find that my cultural conditioning leads me to focus attention on places where I am unlikely to get what I want. I developed NVC as a way to train my attention-to shine the light of consciousness-on places that have the potential to yield what I am seeking.

We are never angry because of what others say or do. It is our thinking that makes us angry.

Clinical training in psychoanalysis has a deficit. It teaches how to sit and think about what a person is saying and how to interpret it intellectually, but not how to be fully present to this person.

My need is for safety, fun and to have distribution of resources, a sustainable life on the planet. NVC is a strategy that serves me to meet these needs.

Any time you throw pain at a Jackal without a clear present request, within a millisecond he'll jump in.