Some people use NVC to respond compassionately to themselves, some to create greater depth in their personal relationships, and still others to build effective relationships at work or in the political arena. Worldwide, NVC is used to mediate disputes and conflicts at all levels.

Don't get addicted to your requests. Your objective is needs, not requests. Because then it becomes a demand.

This objective of getting what we want from other people-or getting them to do what we want them to do-threatens the autonomy of people, their right to choose what they want to do. And whenever people feel that they're not free to choose what they want to do, they are likely to resist, even if they see the purpose in what we are asking and would ordinarily want to do it.

Get very clear about the kind of world we would like and then start living that way.

Every message, regardless of form or content, is an expression of a need.

Judgments of others contribute to self-fulfilling prophecies.

We know the speaker has received adequate empathy when a. we sense a release of tension, or b. the flow of words comes to a halt.