Some people use NVC to respond compassionately to themselves, some to create greater depth in their personal relationships, and still others to build effective relationships at work or in the political arena. Worldwide, NVC is used to mediate disputes and conflicts at all levels.

If we wish to express anger fully, the first step is to divorce the other person from any responsibility for our anger.

NVC is a reminder; to focus our attention where we are most likely to get our needs met.

Also, think about your intentionality - are you getting lost in the method? or coming from the intentionality, the purpose? You don't want to do the mechanics without the consciousness.

I wouldn't expect someone who's been injured to hear my side until they felt that I had fully understood the depth of their pain.

Upset? Ask yourself what this person does that is a trigger for judging them?

NVC is language, thoughts, communication skills and means of influence that serve my desire to do three things: 1) to liberate myself from cultural learning that is in conflict with how I want to live my life. 2) to empower myself to connect with myself and others in a way that makes compassionate giving natural. 3) to empower myself to create structures that support compassionate giving.