What all the basic religions are saying is this: Don't do anything that isn't play.
The more we empathize with the other party, the safer we feel.
In NVC, no matter what words others may use to express themselves, we simply listen for their observations, feelings, needs, and requests.
We are designed for Giving
Your presence is the most precious gift you can give to another human being.
An important aspect of self-compassion is to be able to empathically hold both parts of ourselves-the self that regrets a past action and the self that took the action in the first place.