We are dangerous when we are not conscious of our responsibility for how we behave, think, and feel.

Postpone result/solution thinking until later; it's through connection that solutions materialize - empathy before education.

Very often, the way love is defined, it does violence to both people. It almost makes them a slave to the other. For example, if to be in love, or to be married, it means that I'm responsible for the other person's happiness, now we get into this guilt game, where if they're upset, I'm at fault. Soon, that makes the person we are closest to about as much fun to be around as a prolonged dental appointment.

Never hear what a jackal-speaking person thinks, especially what they think about you.

The first step in healing is to put the focus on what's alive now, not what happened in the past.

This language is from the head. It is a way of mentally classifying people into varying shades of good and bad, right and wrong. Ultimately, it provokes defensiveness, resistance, and counterattack. It is a language of demands.

We are never angry because of what others say or do. It is our thinking that makes us angry.