My ultimate goal is to spend as many of my moments in life as I can in that world that the poet Rumi talks about, 'a place beyond rightness and wrongness.

Clinical training in psychoanalysis has a deficit. It teaches how to sit and think about what a person is saying and how to interpret it intellectually, but not how to be fully present to this person.

If we wish to express anger fully, the first step is to divorce the other person from any responsibility for our anger.

To be able to hear our own feelings and needs and to empathize with them can free us from depression.

What others do may be the stimulus of our feelings, but never the cause.

When I am angry I have a judgment and an unmet need.

We know the speaker has received adequate empathy when a. we sense a release of tension, or b. the flow of words comes to a halt.