The first step in healing is to put the focus on what's alive now, not what happened in the past.

As radical as it may seem, it is possible to do things only out of play. I believe that to the degree that we engage moment by moment in the playfulness of enriching life- motivated solely by the desire for its enrichment- to that degree are we being compassionate with ourselves.

Needs are never conflicting. When we say that, we are only saying that at the moment we aren't seeing how both needs can be met. That leaves an opening. When you think in the way I'm suggesting, you'll often find a way to get most needs met simultaneously.

Interpretations, criticisms, diagnoses, and judgments of others are actually alienated expressions of our unmet needs.

Your presence is the most precious gift you can give to another human being.

Most of us grew up speaking a language that encourages us to label, compare, demand, and pronounce judgments rather than to be aware of what we are feeling and needing.

They have most likely said it because they have an unmet need.