We only feel dehumanized when we get trapped in the derogatory images of other people or thoughts of wrongness about ourselves.

Empathy: Emptying our mind and listening with our whole being

When I am angry I have a judgment and an unmet need.

If people just asked: "Here are the needs of both sides, here are the resources. What can be done to meet these needs?" the conflict would be easy to resolve.

As NVC replaces our old patterns of defending, withdrawing or attacking in the face of judgment and criticism. We come to perceive ourselves and others, as well as our intentions and relationships, in a new light. Resistance, defensiveness, and violent reactions are minimized.

Every criticism, judgment, diagnosis, and expression of anger is the tragic expression of an unmet need.

The spirituality that we need to develop for social change is one that mobilizes us for social change.