Our survival as a species depends on our ability to recognize that our well-being and the well-being of others are in fact one and the same.

We use NVC to evaluate ourselves in ways that engender growth rather than self-hatred.

Empathy: Emptying our mind and listening with our whole being

We never really know what we want until after we get it. If after we get it, it makes life more miserable, we know that isn't what we wanted. If it makes our life wonderful, we know this is a strategy which will meet out need. That's why Paul Tillich, the theologian says we need to sin courageously. You ask for what you want, hoping to meet your needs. If you get it and it makes life worse, you learn that this isn't what I want.

People heal from their pain when they have an authentic connection with another human being.

Empathize with silence by listening for the feelings and needs behind it.

If we become skilled in giving ourselves empathy, we often experience in just a few seconds a natural release of energy which then enables us to be present with the other person. If this fails to happen, however, we have a couple of other choices.