NO is always a YES to something else.

Empathy allows us to re-perceive our world in a new way and move forward.

We only feel dehumanized when we get trapped in the derogatory images of other people or thoughts of wrongness about ourselves.

If the other persons behavior is not in harmony with my own needs, the more I empathize with them and their needs, the more likely I am to get me own needs met.

All violence is the result of people tricking themselves into believing that their pain derives from other people and that consequently those people deserve to be punished.

The more we use words that in any way imply criticism, the more difficult it is for people to stay connected to the beauty within themselves.

If people just asked: "Here are the needs of both sides, here are the resources. What can be done to meet these needs?" the conflict would be easy to resolve.