What all the basic religions are saying is this: Don't do anything that isn't play.

NVC enhances inner communication by helping us translate negative internal messages into feelings and needs. Our ability to distinguish our own feelings and needs and to empathize with them can free us from depression.

Once you can clearly describe what you are reacting to, free of your interpretation or evaluation of it, other people are less likely to be defensive when they hear it.

Avoid 'shoulding' on others and yourself!

Any time you throw pain at a Jackal without a clear present request, within a millisecond he'll jump in.

Remember that whatever anyone does, it is an effort to meet a need.

The more we empathize with the other party, the safer we feel.