If we can stop, listen, and think about what others are seeing in us, we have a great opportunity. We can compare the self that we want to be with the self that we are presenting to the rest of the world. We can then begin to make the real changes that are needed to close the gap between our stated values and our actual behavior.

Great leaders encourage leadership development. By openly developing themselves

After living with their dysfunctional behavior for so many years, people become invested in defending their dysfunctions rather than changing them.

The only way to cure the disease is to find happiness and meaning now.

Every decision that affects our lives will be made by the person who has the power to make that decision, not the 'right' person or the 'smartest' person or the 'best' person. Make peace with this fact.

With problems and issues groups face- there is an enormous disconnect between understanding and doing.

It is a whole lot easier to see our problems in others than it is to see them in ourselves.