It's not what we don't know that hurts us, people say. It's what we believe is true that isn't that does the damage.

I gave three years of my life to take care of my dying mother who had Alzheimer's disease. Being there for her every need for three years might have looked codependent but it wasn't because it was what I wanted to do.

Whatever we try to control does have control over us and our life.

Today I will not wait for someone to come to my aid. I'm not helpless. Although help may come, I'm my own rescuer. My relationships will dramatically improve when I stop rescuing others and stop expecting others to rescue me.

I didn't have to scramble up and down the ladder from despair to euphoria anymore, trying to convince myself that life was either painful and terrible or joyous and wonderful. The simple truth was that life was both. p 214

Letting go of our ideas about how life should go is a choice that sets life's magic free.

Anger is a warning signal. It points to problems.