People will often say "You can't change other people." My research shows this societal belief is not only dis-empowering, it is scientifically false.

When someone comes to you to talk about a problem, if you move the conversation on to a discussion of potential solutions, you fuel their creative problem solving abilities on average by 20% - not to mention you make them feel better! You make them smarter and more empowered to tackle challenges.

People are pulled towards the best in themselves, and spotlighting the right is a much stronger approach than nagging.

Change your story, change your power.

If you want a particular behavior from someone else, try spotlighting those times when he or she is already doing it.

People will often say "You can't change other people." My research shows this societal belief is not only dis-empowering, it is scientifically false.

Instead of running from the negative, I've started running towards the positive.