When "Why not do it?" barely outweighs "Why do it?" — don't do it.
In youth we are plagued by desire; in later years, by the desire to feel desire.
Self-confidence grows on trees, in other people's orchards.
Your children vividly remember every unkind thing you ever did to them, plus a few you really didn't.
It's easy enough to get along with a loved and loving child - at least till you try to get him to do something.
Naturally, the neurotic wants you to love him twice as much, for he's going to cut it in half anyway.