If I succeed in loving you, I will be able to love everyone and all species on Earth... This is the real message of love
Nhat HanhWhen you plant lettuce, if it does not grow well, you don't blame the lettuce. You look for reasons it is not doing well. It may need fertilizer, or more water, or less sun. You never blame the lettuce. Yet if we have problems with our friends or family, we blame the other person. But if we know how to take care of them, they will grow well, like the lettuce. Blaming has no positive effect at all, nor does trying to persuade using reason and arguments. That is my experience. No blame, no reasoning, no argument, just understanding.
Nhat HanhMindfulness must be engaged. Once there is seeing, there must be acting. Otherwise, what's the use of seeing?
Nhat Hanh