Solutions can't be imposed. That just fosters resentment.
You're your kid's partner, not the person who's pulling all the strings.
Kids are overprogrammed these days.
My advice to educators is collaborate with parents; they know a lot about their kids.
Over 18 years of us solving problems together, my daughter has shown me that she's got a good head on her shoulders, that she is pretty good at solving the problems that affect her life. If she wants my input, she gets it.
When people are rushed, they're stressed and you greatly increase the likelihood of being punitive and unilateral just because you're trying to grasp control.