If a solution isn't mutually satisfactory, it's not going to stick.
If we're sitting at dinner and there's no conversation going on because everybody's got their head someplace else in their iPhone, that's a family problem that needs to be solved.
School is very demanding these days.
Solutions can't be imposed. That just fosters resentment.
Kids are overprogrammed these days.
Challenging behavior is just a signal, the fever, the means by which the kid is communicating that he or she is having difficulty meeting an expectation.