Kids are overprogrammed these days.
Solutions can't be imposed. That just fosters resentment.
My advice to educators is collaborate with parents; they know a lot about their kids.
People still look askance at a kid in the supermarket who's pitching a fit and think the parent is not sufficiently in control or not being sufficiently punitive. That's an issue for a lot of parents as well.
Most parents are accustomed to dealing with problems in the heat of the moment.
You want to teach all kids the skills that are on the better side of human nature: empathy, appreciating how one's behavior is affecting other people, resolving disagreements in ways that do not involve conflict, taking another's perspective, honesty.