No kid should be getting three or four hours of homework a night. There's no breathing time, there's no family time, there are just extracurriculars and homework and then go to bed.
Ross W. GreeneThere is still quite the vibe out there that as a parent you have to be completely in control and in charge.
Ross W. GreenePeople still look askance at a kid in the supermarket who's pitching a fit and think the parent is not sufficiently in control or not being sufficiently punitive. That's an issue for a lot of parents as well.
Ross W. GreeneWe have forgotten that those skills on the more positive side of human nature have to be taught, have to be modeled, have to be practiced.
Ross W. GreeneOver 18 years of us solving problems together, my daughter has shown me that she's got a good head on her shoulders, that she is pretty good at solving the problems that affect her life. If she wants my input, she gets it.
Ross W. GreeneThe vast majority of things parents and kids get in conflict over are highly predictable. We're disagreeing about the same expectations the kid is having difficulty meeting every hour, every day, every week. Because it's predictable, we can have these conversations proactively. That is very hard for people.
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