Kids are overprogrammed these days.

We never get to see that our kid is capable of solving problems on her own. We never start to build up the faith that they can actually do it.

Being completely in control is a fantasy.

When there's a good fit between skills and expectations, there's what we call compatibility, and we would expect a good outcome. When there's a poor fit between expectations and the capacity of the kid, there is incompatibility, and that's when we see people exhibit challenging behavior.

Most parents are accustomed to dealing with problems in the heat of the moment.

Over 18 years of us solving problems together, my daughter has shown me that she's got a good head on her shoulders, that she is pretty good at solving the problems that affect her life. If she wants my input, she gets it.

It's so crucial to really get a good handle on what's getting in the way of the kid completing a homework assignment. It can be so many things.