Kids are overprogrammed these days.

We never get to see that our kid is capable of solving problems on her own. We never start to build up the faith that they can actually do it.

People still look askance at a kid in the supermarket who's pitching a fit and think the parent is not sufficiently in control or not being sufficiently punitive. That's an issue for a lot of parents as well.

If a solution isn't mutually satisfactory, it's not going to stick.

My advice to educators is collaborate with parents; they know a lot about their kids.

Everybody is talking about the behavior. Behaviors float downstream to us. We need to paddle upstream. The problems that are causing the behaviors, that's what's waiting for us. It's a crucial paradigm shift.

Solutions can't be imposed. That just fosters resentment.