Kids are overprogrammed these days.

School is very demanding these days.

Parents are much more likely to be attuned to what they don't like than they are to the expectations that the kid is having difficulty meeting.

No kid should be getting three or four hours of homework a night. There's no breathing time, there's no family time, there are just extracurriculars and homework and then go to bed.

It's a whole lot more productive to be in problem-solving mode than it is to be in behavior modification mode.

When there's a good fit between skills and expectations, there's what we call compatibility, and we would expect a good outcome. When there's a poor fit between expectations and the capacity of the kid, there is incompatibility, and that's when we see people exhibit challenging behavior.

Most parents are accustomed to dealing with problems in the heat of the moment.