If we're sitting at dinner and there's no conversation going on because everybody's got their head someplace else in their iPhone, that's a family problem that needs to be solved.

You want to teach all kids the skills that are on the better side of human nature: empathy, appreciating how one's behavior is affecting other people, resolving disagreements in ways that do not involve conflict, taking another's perspective, honesty.

School is very demanding these days.

If a solution isn't mutually satisfactory, it's not going to stick.

We never get to see that our kid is capable of solving problems on her own. We never start to build up the faith that they can actually do it.

My advice to educators is collaborate with parents; they know a lot about their kids.

A lot of parents aren't exactly sure how to go about solving a problem with a kid in a way that's mutually satisfactory - doing that with their child feels very foreign to a lot of people. It probably explains why so many parents tell me their kids don't listen to them and why so many kids tell me that they don't feel heard.