We never get to see that our kid is capable of solving problems on her own. We never start to build up the faith that they can actually do it.

Parents are much more likely to be attuned to what they don't like than they are to the expectations that the kid is having difficulty meeting.

People still look askance at a kid in the supermarket who's pitching a fit and think the parent is not sufficiently in control or not being sufficiently punitive. That's an issue for a lot of parents as well.

We have forgotten that those skills on the more positive side of human nature have to be taught, have to be modeled, have to be practiced.

If we're being unilateral, then communication does not happen, the relationship does not happen.

Kids are overprogrammed these days.

Solutions can't be imposed. That just fosters resentment.