We never get to see that our kid is capable of solving problems on her own. We never start to build up the faith that they can actually do it.

Challenging behavior is just a signal, the fever, the means by which the kid is communicating that he or she is having difficulty meeting an expectation.

Being completely in control is a fantasy.

The vast majority of things parents and kids get in conflict over are highly predictable. We're disagreeing about the same expectations the kid is having difficulty meeting every hour, every day, every week. Because it's predictable, we can have these conversations proactively. That is very hard for people.

My advice to educators is collaborate with parents; they know a lot about their kids.

The idea that we can take this lump of clay and mold it into a form of our choosing is absolutely ludicrous.

We never get to see that our kid is capable of solving problems on her own. We never start to build up the faith that they can actually do it.