We never get to see that our kid is capable of solving problems on her own. We never start to build up the faith that they can actually do it.

The idea that we can take this lump of clay and mold it into a form of our choosing is absolutely ludicrous.

Parents are much more likely to be attuned to what they don't like than they are to the expectations that the kid is having difficulty meeting.

If we're sitting at dinner and there's no conversation going on because everybody's got their head someplace else in their iPhone, that's a family problem that needs to be solved.

Solutions can't be imposed. That just fosters resentment.

If a solution isn't mutually satisfactory, it's not going to stick.

You're your kid's partner, not the person who's pulling all the strings.