We never get to see that our kid is capable of solving problems on her own. We never start to build up the faith that they can actually do it.

Being completely in control is a fantasy.

When people are rushed, they're stressed and you greatly increase the likelihood of being punitive and unilateral just because you're trying to grasp control.

It's so crucial to really get a good handle on what's getting in the way of the kid completing a homework assignment. It can be so many things.

Everybody is talking about the behavior. Behaviors float downstream to us. We need to paddle upstream. The problems that are causing the behaviors, that's what's waiting for us. It's a crucial paradigm shift.

If a solution isn't mutually satisfactory, it's not going to stick.

We never get to see that our kid is capable of solving problems on her own. We never start to build up the faith that they can actually do it.