The vast majority of things parents and kids get in conflict over are highly predictable. We're disagreeing about the same expectations the kid is having difficulty meeting every hour, every day, every week. Because it's predictable, we can have these conversations proactively. That is very hard for people.
Ross W. GreeneWe never get to see that our kid is capable of solving problems on her own. We never start to build up the faith that they can actually do it.
Ross W. GreeneParents are much more likely to be attuned to what they don't like than they are to the expectations that the kid is having difficulty meeting.
Ross W. GreeneMy advice to educators is collaborate with parents; they know a lot about their kids.
Ross W. GreeneA lot of parents aren't exactly sure how to go about solving a problem with a kid in a way that's mutually satisfactory - doing that with their child feels very foreign to a lot of people. It probably explains why so many parents tell me their kids don't listen to them and why so many kids tell me that they don't feel heard.
Ross W. Greene