There is still quite the vibe out there that as a parent you have to be completely in control and in charge.
No kid should be getting three or four hours of homework a night. There's no breathing time, there's no family time, there are just extracurriculars and homework and then go to bed.
Solutions can't be imposed. That just fosters resentment.
Kids are overprogrammed these days.
Being completely in control is a fantasy.
Over 18 years of us solving problems together, my daughter has shown me that she's got a good head on her shoulders, that she is pretty good at solving the problems that affect her life. If she wants my input, she gets it.