There is still quite the vibe out there that as a parent you have to be completely in control and in charge.

We never get to see that our kid is capable of solving problems on her own. We never start to build up the faith that they can actually do it.

Being completely in control is a fantasy.

No kid should be getting three or four hours of homework a night. There's no breathing time, there's no family time, there are just extracurriculars and homework and then go to bed.

People don't scream or swear or pout or sulk when there's compatibility. But most growth occurs when there's incompatibility. When it comes to resilience, when it comes to pulling yourself up when you've fallen down, you don't learn those things when things are going well. You learn those things when you're struggling.

School is very demanding these days.

Parents are much more likely to be attuned to what they don't like than they are to the expectations that the kid is having difficulty meeting.