There is still quite the vibe out there that as a parent you have to be completely in control and in charge.

School is very demanding these days.

It's a whole lot more productive to be in problem-solving mode than it is to be in behavior modification mode.

If we're being unilateral, then communication does not happen, the relationship does not happen.

The idea that we can take this lump of clay and mold it into a form of our choosing is absolutely ludicrous.

We never get to see that our kid is capable of solving problems on her own. We never start to build up the faith that they can actually do it.

People still look askance at a kid in the supermarket who's pitching a fit and think the parent is not sufficiently in control or not being sufficiently punitive. That's an issue for a lot of parents as well.