When people are rushed, they're stressed and you greatly increase the likelihood of being punitive and unilateral just because you're trying to grasp control.

The vast majority of things parents and kids get in conflict over are highly predictable. We're disagreeing about the same expectations the kid is having difficulty meeting every hour, every day, every week. Because it's predictable, we can have these conversations proactively. That is very hard for people.

We never get to see that our kid is capable of solving problems on her own. We never start to build up the faith that they can actually do it.

Most parents are accustomed to dealing with problems in the heat of the moment.

It's so crucial to really get a good handle on what's getting in the way of the kid completing a homework assignment. It can be so many things.

My advice to educators is collaborate with parents; they know a lot about their kids.

People don't scream or swear or pout or sulk when there's compatibility. But most growth occurs when there's incompatibility. When it comes to resilience, when it comes to pulling yourself up when you've fallen down, you don't learn those things when things are going well. You learn those things when you're struggling.