When people are rushed, they're stressed and you greatly increase the likelihood of being punitive and unilateral just because you're trying to grasp control.

When people are rushed, they're stressed and you greatly increase the likelihood of being punitive and unilateral just because you're trying to grasp control.

My advice to educators is collaborate with parents; they know a lot about their kids.

We have forgotten that those skills on the more positive side of human nature have to be taught, have to be modeled, have to be practiced.

It's a whole lot more productive to be in problem-solving mode than it is to be in behavior modification mode.

Be your kid's collaborative partner, but also be a collaborative partner with the folks at school. Schools can be pretty unilateral too. Show them you know how to collaborate. Show them this is not about power. Let them know detentions and suspensions and paddling don't solve the problems that are affecting kids' lives. Those problems can be identified and solved but not by being punitive.

If we're being unilateral, then communication does not happen, the relationship does not happen.