Praise & esteem can feel good, which is fine, but don't look to them for inner peace & lasting happiness.
We all have issues and we have usually come by them honestly.
Thoughts, words, emotions & deeds not coming from love are likely coming from fear.
Any methodology for developing patience requires a multi-tiered approach.
We need never be bound by the limitations of our previous or current thinking, nor are we ever locked into being the person we used to be, or think we are.
Observing your thoughts, feelings & sensations is the grist of the practice.