Thoughts, words, emotions & deeds not coming from love are likely coming from fear.
Any methodology for developing patience requires a multi-tiered approach.
Support the type of thinking that leads you to feeling good, peaceful & happy.
Don't believe everything you think. Thoughts are just that - thoughts.
Praise & esteem can feel good, which is fine, but don't look to them for inner peace & lasting happiness.
Patience lives in the gap between our experience of an event and our response to that experience.