I think you need to make responsibility something that's not just a word.
There is no labor a person does that is undignified; if they do it right.
If you have a question about anything, the answer can be found in a book somewhere in the library.
How long can you tread water?
In your 50s, time becomes precious and must not be wasted. Every minute is an excellent opportunity for a good nap. Happy 50th birthday!
The heart of marriage is memories.