Children don't know that they are lovable until they are loved. They need to see it in our eyes before they can accept it in their hearts.

When the question is either/or, the answer is almost alwaysboth/and.

When people feel criticized, they almost always defend the behavior you want them to change.

Realistic optimism allows us to experience the best until we have to deal with the worst ... which often, never comes.

A relationship is like life. It isn't a process of preservation, but of change and growth. Unless you grow and change together, you will change ... and grow apart.

You can't fight fire with fire, or fear with fear.

To influence others to change, you must be able to frame that change in terms of the future, and in a way that has value to all concerned.