Consider for a moment what you pay attention to all day long. What seems important to you, what do you take for granted and hardly attend to at all? Write it down. Do not judge your answers. Be honest and simple. As you keep track all week long, you'll be amazed at what claims your attention, what you give your precious life force to.

If one's sense of self is obtained through the eyes of another it is always subject to being lost.

we learn the process of emptying out, cleaning house, both within and without.

In a relationship if you are giving and getting nothing back in return, stop giving so much, and spend time being. Give to yourself, be who you are.

This is how we know we are in a loving relationship. We are blooming, and the one we love is blooming as well.

Unless we base our sense of identity upon the truth of who we are, it is impossible to attain true happiness.

Zen practice asks you not to worry about who you 'should' become. Find out who you are right now.