A time of uncertainty, of not knowing exactly where we're headed, or what kind of choice to make is a Zen moment.

This is how we know we are in a loving relationship. We are blooming, and the one we love is blooming as well.

All experiences are welcomed and fully digested, not judged good or bad.

When we sit, we open our own treasure house. Rather than do this, however, most of us first seek to find the treasures another person can provide. We calculate their value to us. When we approach relationships in this manner, we are coming as beggars, seeing the other as a source of supply. When we can enter a relationship with our treasure house already open, there is no end to the wonders we can find, both within and between ourselves and another.

Now today, moment by moment, realize that each person and event that happens is life for you. Life is not somewhere else. See how fully you can accept the life that presents itself to you now.

It is a mistake to expect all of our needs to be met by one person or in one relationship. Honor and be grateful for that which you receive. Don't become bitter and spend all your time focusing on that which the person is not able to provide.

From the Zen view all beings are in the grip of the three poisons, greed, anger and delusion (ignorance).