What seems good turns bad, what seems bad turns good. It is an endless cycle.

Whatever we can't love or accept in another, is a mirror of something we can't love or accept in ourselves.

From the Zen view all beings are in the grip of the three poisons, greed, anger and delusion (ignorance).

When we are able to receive life's challenges as koans rather than problems, they become interesting and exciting, rather than ponderous and depressing.

It is a mistake to expect all of our needs to be met by one person or in one relationship. Honor and be grateful for that which you receive. Don't become bitter and spend all your time focusing on that which the person is not able to provide.

We turn pain into suffering by adding on all kinds of beliefs, interpretations and judgments to it.

All conflict we experience in the world, is a conflict within our own selves.