If one's sense of self is obtained through the eyes of another it is always subject to being lost.
Brenda ShoshannaNow today, moment by moment, realize that each person and event that happens is life for you. Life is not somewhere else. See how fully you can accept the life that presents itself to you now.
Brenda ShoshannaZen practice asks you not to worry about who you 'should' become. Find out who you are right now.
Brenda ShoshannaFear of the future and longing for the past are major factors which impede appropriate action.
Brenda ShoshannaAnother simple and powerful way to dissolve problems is not to dwell upon the outcome of your actions. Instead, learn to value each action (no matter how small or large), to do it with complete attention. Your joy and satisfaction comes from doing each action with a whole heart and mind. Results and consequences then take care of themselves. When you are not absorbed by concern for outcomes, how much anxiety can you ever have?
Brenda Shoshanna