When we are in a truly loving relationship, we receive the gift of being known and accepted. We become more, not less, of who we are. We receive the space in which to bloom. This is how we know we are in a loving relationship. We are blooming, and the one we love is blooming as well.

In the Zen Way we focus upon each breath, each day, each moment and experience it totally. One complete breath brings the next.

All experiences are welcomed and fully digested, not judged good or bad.

The facts of our lives, when we are able to know them, will free us from the torment we are in. When we can bear reality thoroughly, suffering is over. Pain may exist, but it is only pain. Suffering is what we add to pain.

Whatever we can't love or accept in another, is a mirror of something we can't love or accept in ourselves.

What we pay attention to expands. What we pay attention to we become.

we learn the process of emptying out, cleaning house, both within and without.