The best defense against being hurt is to feel good about yourself and the way a person responds to you says more about them, than about you.
Brenda ShoshannaWhen we sit, we open our own treasure house. Rather than do this, however, most of us first seek to find the treasures another person can provide. We calculate their value to us. When we approach relationships in this manner, we are coming as beggars, seeing the other as a source of supply. When we can enter a relationship with our treasure house already open, there is no end to the wonders we can find, both within and between ourselves and another.
Brenda ShoshannaWho you are is always enough. If your partner wants something different, it does not reflect upon you, but upon their needs and fantasies.
Brenda ShoshannaIt is a mistake to expect all of our needs to be met by one person or in one relationship. Honor and be grateful for that which you receive. Don't become bitter and spend all your time focusing on that which the person is not able to provide.
Brenda ShoshannaWhen we are in a truly loving relationship, we receive the gift of being known and accepted. We become more, not less, of who we are. We receive the space in which to bloom. This is how we know we are in a loving relationship. We are blooming, and the one we love is blooming as well.
Brenda Shoshanna