All conflict we experience in the world, is a conflict within our own selves.

Do not make this practice a source of pressure, compulsion, anxiety or pride. It is none of these. Zazen is simply a way to find your true home.

Who you are is always enough. If your partner wants something different, it does not reflect upon you, but upon their needs and fantasies.

Another simple and powerful way to dissolve problems is not to dwell upon the outcome of your actions. Instead, learn to value each action (no matter how small or large), to do it with complete attention. Your joy and satisfaction comes from doing each action with a whole heart and mind. Results and consequences then take care of themselves. When you are not absorbed by concern for outcomes, how much anxiety can you ever have?

Now today, moment by moment, realize that each person and event that happens is life for you. Life is not somewhere else. See how fully you can accept the life that presents itself to you now.

Change is the very basis of our life, not to be fought, to be welcomed and tasted, to be seen for the gift it truly is.

A time of uncertainty, of not knowing exactly where we're headed, or what kind of choice to make is a Zen moment.