we learn the process of emptying out, cleaning house, both within and without.

Another simple and powerful way to dissolve problems is not to dwell upon the outcome of your actions. Instead, learn to value each action (no matter how small or large), to do it with complete attention. Your joy and satisfaction comes from doing each action with a whole heart and mind. Results and consequences then take care of themselves. When you are not absorbed by concern for outcomes, how much anxiety can you ever have?

The sense that my world is stable and stationary, that change will never come and that all will go on continuously as it is, is the nature of all delusion.

Who you are is always enough. If your partner wants something different, it does not reflect upon you, but upon their needs and fantasies.

We turn pain into suffering by adding on all kinds of beliefs, interpretations and judgments to it.

When we are in a truly loving relationship, we receive the gift of being known and accepted. We become more, not less, of who we are. We receive the space in which to bloom. This is how we know we are in a loving relationship. We are blooming, and the one we love is blooming as well.

If one's sense of self is obtained through the eyes of another it is always subject to being lost.