All experiences are welcomed and fully digested, not judged good or bad.

Who you are is always enough. If your partner wants something different, it does not reflect upon you, but upon their needs and fantasies.

When we sit, we open our own treasure house. Rather than do this, however, most of us first seek to find the treasures another person can provide. We calculate their value to us. When we approach relationships in this manner, we are coming as beggars, seeing the other as a source of supply. When we can enter a relationship with our treasure house already open, there is no end to the wonders we can find, both within and between ourselves and another.

When we do not reject our suffering, or add anything to it, pain is simply pain. It is what we add to our pain that turns it into suffering.

A time of uncertainty, of not knowing exactly where we're headed, or what kind of choice to make is a Zen moment.

Zen practice asks you not to worry about who you 'should' become. Find out who you are right now.

Change is the very basis of our life, not to be fought, to be welcomed and tasted, to be seen for the gift it truly is.