Whatever we can't love or accept in another, is a mirror of something we can't love or accept in ourselves.

If one's sense of self is obtained through the eyes of another it is always subject to being lost.

Who you are is always enough. If your partner wants something different, it does not reflect upon you, but upon their needs and fantasies.

The facts of our lives, when we are able to know them, will free us from the torment we are in. When we can bear reality thoroughly, suffering is over. Pain may exist, but it is only pain. Suffering is what we add to pain.

The best defense against being hurt is to feel good about yourself and the way a person responds to you says more about them, than about you.

A time of uncertainty, of not knowing exactly where we're headed, or what kind of choice to make is a Zen moment.

we learn the process of emptying out, cleaning house, both within and without.