Whatever we can't love or accept in another, is a mirror of something we can't love or accept in ourselves.

Unless we base our sense of identity upon the truth of who we are, it is impossible to attain true happiness.

From the Zen view all beings are in the grip of the three poisons, greed, anger and delusion (ignorance).

Consider for a moment what you pay attention to all day long. What seems important to you, what do you take for granted and hardly attend to at all? Write it down. Do not judge your answers. Be honest and simple. As you keep track all week long, you'll be amazed at what claims your attention, what you give your precious life force to.

Fear of the future and longing for the past are major factors which impede appropriate action.

Zen practice asks you not to worry about who you 'should' become. Find out who you are right now.

This is how we know we are in a loving relationship. We are blooming, and the one we love is blooming as well.