Long-lasting change that will help you create new habits and actions requires an inside-out approach, as well as two very important tools: the mirror and time.
If you want to grow, you must learn to let go.
Do not lose hope in what the universe has placed you here to do.
Choosing to be miserable is an option, but not one I recommend.
When you accept the fact you have no control and choose not to take any action, you are letting go.
Your behavior is based on your beliefs, and what you do and say, over and over again, helps develop your habits.