Evoke one good memory for each bad one from now on.

Spirituality is the intersection of three paths: letting go of ego, an unconditional yes to the conditions of human existence, and an immeasurable compassion.

We can actually reconstruct our past by examining what we think, say, feel, expect, believe, and do in an intimate relationship now.

To be adult in relationship is not to be conflict-free, it's to resolve conflicts mindfully.

The most exciting part of finding out who we are is discovering our own uniqueness, who we are outside the box, beyond the categories in a Psychology 101 textbook. In our inimitable singularity, there is an infinite range of possibility that cannot be tied to any one description of what it means to be human or healthy.

Our wounds are often the openings into the best and most beautiful part of us.

Once we make our relationship choices in an adult way, a prospective partner who is unavailable, nonreciprocal, or not open to processing feelings and issues, becomes, by those very facts, unappealing. Once we love ourselves, people no longer look good to us unless they are good for us.