We all know we are unique individuals, but we tend to see others as representatives of groups.
Deborah TannenTo say that a person feels listened to means a lot more than just their ideas get heard. It's a sign of respect. It makes people feel valued.
Deborah TannenThe key to conversation at work is flexibility and understanding how what you say might be perceived by others.
Deborah TannenWhen people realize that in the long run you may be turning off the audiences more, even though they will look temporarily--in the end they turn away, we really need to develop other metaphors and not talk about two sides, but talk about all sides.
Deborah Tannen