All conversation, in addition to whatever else it does, displays, and asks for recognition of, our competence.

Communication is a continual balancing act, juggling the conflicting needs for intimacy and independence

Part of the reason images of women in positions of authority are marked by their gender is that the very notion of authority is associated with maleness.

Saying that men talk about baseball in order to avoid talking about their feelings is the same as saying that women talk about their feelings in order to avoid talking about baseball.

We tend to look through language and not realize how much power language has

Each underestimates her own power and overestimates the other's

Treating people the same is not equal treatment if they are not the same.