Give up defining yourself - to yourself or to others. You won't die. You will come to life. And don't be concerned with how others define you. When they define you, they are limiting themselves, so it's their problem. Whenever you interact with people, don't be there primarily as a function or a role, but as the field of conscious Presence. You can only lose something that you have, but you cannot lose something that you are.
Eckhart TolleSuffering cracks open the shell of ego, and then comes a point when it has served its purpose. Suffering is necessary until you realize it is unnecessary.
Eckhart TolleSome people get attached to their practice. They get good at it, but even becoming a good meditator can become a hindrance.
Eckhart TolleThe pain-body wants to survive, just like every other entity in existence, and it can only survive if it gets you to unconsciously identify with it.
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