Underground issues from one relationship or context invariably fuel our fires in another.

Being who we are requires that we can talk openly about things that are important to us, that we take a clear position on where we stand on important emotional issues, and that we clarify the limits of what is acceptable and tolerable to us in a relationship.

deception and 'con games' are a way of life in all species and throughout nature. Organisms that do not improve their ability to deceive - and to detect deception - are less apt to survive.

What initially attracts us and what later becomes 'the problem' are usually one and the same.

Self-help books for women are part of a multibillion-dollar industry, sensitively attuned to our insecurities and our purses.

If what we are doing with our anger is not achieving the desired result, it would seem logical to try something different.

Every time I open Facebook, I see a post with something like, "We must forgive or be prisoners of our own bitterness and hate." People think that forgiveness is all-or-nothing, but this myth hurts people. You can forgive 10, 97, or 14 percent. Forgiveness is complicated.