Children need parents who model self-discipline rather than preach it. They learn from what their parents are actually willing to do; not from what they say they do.

The most paradoxical aspect of neurotic shame is that it is the core motivator of the superachieved and the underachieved, the star and the scapegoat, the righteous and the wretched, the powerful and the pathetic.

We move from the illusion of certainty, to the certainty of illusion

I believe that this neglected, wounded, inner child of the past is the major source of human misery.

The more we know about how we lost our spontaneous wonder and creativity, the more we can find ways to get them back.

Chronically dysfunctioning families are also delusional. Delusion is sincere denial.

Recovery begins with embracing our pain and taking the risk to share it with others. We do this by joining a group and talking about our pain.